Gay encounter

We would make the guy kneel. Close the door. So I decided, mainly out of curiosity, that it was time to try it out. But most people there were in their thirties and forties, and seemed fairly comfortable. Only when I turned out 17, I first entered a gay club in Zaporizhzhia, Ukraine.

I went from coming in and feeling like I was doing something wrong, to having a great night with new friends. Someone timed 3 minutes. I guess that night feels so special, even now, because of how quickly and radically my outlook changed.

THIS HAPPENED TO ME/SEX/LGBT My First Same-Sex Sexual Encounter Was Painful and Unsatisfying I was a young man navigating my sexual orientation; I had no idea what I was getting into. That’s was when G put his hand under my pants and began to jerk me off.

I was 17 and hanging out with two friends when another mate suggested we meet him at Station des Artistes, a gay bar in my home city of Pau, in the southwest of France. Oh man… it was a total shocker. Now, with the passage of time, the allure of gay bars has faded.

Sometimes, we would push the victim into the locker room.

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Turn off the lights. The urge to linger, to nestle into the embrace of that bar where every gaze mirrored my own, was irresistible. Almost as soon as I walked in, I felt intimidated and embarrassed — almost guilty. Now this being my first sexual experience, at all, I didn’t last gay and came almost instantaneously.

The bar became a cocoon, a haven from which I never wanted to emerge. To find out what the experience means to people across Europe, we spoke to queer people from different countries and asked them to describe what their first visit to a gay club was like. Find apps with better privacy, unique features, and a safer dating experience.

The kinship, the shared identity, it was all I had yearned for, a refuge where my true self could breathe. Born and nurtured in the sombre confines of Warsaw, where my very essence was condemned, the shift to a world so unshackled felt like a dream woven in colours too vivid for my eyes.

We had our own bro code. Trigger. This means I had only 2 ways to get close to a guy: let others abuse me or abuse someone else myself. After I was 25, I did not visit gay bars anymore. It was as if I had stumbled upon an encounter of belonging, a place where, for the first time, I was unafraid to be seen.

Often, your local gay bar or club is the only public place you can party or cruise as a queer person without the fear of being judged or threatened for simply being yourself. So I sprinted off to the toiled to clean up. Did that transform my life?

We would all pull down our pants. Discover the best Grindr alternatives for gay, bi, and queer men. One of them left with my best friend, and they ended up going out for three years. The vibe there quickly grew on me, though — and pretty soon my group of friends really clicked with another group.